Love Changes Everything

Bully. Such a simple word. Today, we see it as a person who is cruel to others for their own benefit. This was not it's original meaning, in fact being called a bully used to be a compliment. Throughout time the word has lost it's positivity and evolved into something of less joy, perhaps even more anger.

Bullies exist in all places, ages, races, and social classes. There is no escaping them, you just need to stop listening and start loving them. Now, do not confuse yourself and believe that everyone is a bully, while we all have our bully-like tendencies and qualities, some people have circumstances that blindly turn them into a bully. Just as the meaning of the word changed, people can change for the better or the worse.

Bullying can start even with a young child. A boy or girl, barely able to think, but old enough to mimic can easily become a bully if put in a bad situation. A troubled home is most visibly (to me) the cause of young bullies. When put into a social event, such as school, the child can act as someone they have seen, or even unknowingly be cruel to others, psychologically allowing themselves an outlet.

As the child grows, the opportunity for a change can become more accessible, the choice can be purposeful. Issues can become more physically violent; fights can start out of sick amusement, to publicly torture someone, or even to let physical abuse damage them mentally. New ways to torture a victim are found, such as cyber bullying, cascading a blanket of sadness, anger, despair, and frustration around an entire life. Even worse, in the teen years especially, it can lead to much more serious consequences, like self harm.

Into adulthood, bullying can still exist. Humans as a whole see bullying as insecurity and a lack of maturity. Normally adults would have developed security and maturity through their time spent on Earth so far, but if they never gain those qualities it can prove to have a lasting impact on their character.

There is hope in my words though. If one can become a bully, one can become a kind, self confident, selfless person. This can even be true of an adult who has lived their whole life walking down the path of being lonely and insecure. In fact, it can create an instance in which ex-bullies can console those who are still going through the pain they used to or victims of their pain.

Hope this raises your awareness that bullies are in pain, no matter the age, or any characteristic. They can be helped, you just have to reach out, love them, and pray for God's Will. Thank you for taking time to read this,
Shannon