The Dartboard Effect

People are dartboards.

We throw sharp words at others. We need the get out our anger, throw darts to express our pain, we need to release the demon built up inside us. Or we could just be having fun with friends, not even noticing how much damage we are causing to the little piece of helpless cork. That's the thing, a dartboard is made of cork. Once you hit the board, that mark is left forever, you can't take it back. You can pull the dart out, but the evidence of the throw is still there. Once the board has enough holes you move on tho another, who cares? It's just a dartboard right?

Bullies aim, fire, and hit. Over and over and over, the marks increase and the person is less and less valuable in their own eyes. Their condition mentally degrades, most people will feel less and less usable and wanted or even needed as verbal or physical wounds are created. You can choose not to throw the dart at all. That is all up to to the one who holds the dart. Like I have said previously we all have the ability to chuck the darts, because we have an unlimited supply. It's a game we don't have to play.

You can't help who is playing the game, but you can change the amount of darts thrown at you. Did you know you have the power to make darts miss? When a person throws a dart in a game they will never say they are to blame. Something distracted them, the wind took control, or the dart was faulty. If you aren't being bullied you are supposed to be the reason that someone needs to make those excuses. You are there for the person in need and therefore the darts can't hit. If you are being bullied you can keep the darts off too. Don't let them stick, don't listen to harsh words and take them to heart, that isn't you, it's what others want you to be for their enjoyment. Be the one that no one even aims at because there is something about it that 'no one can hit it'.

Most don't know this, but dartboards can be repaired. It takes time and careful work, love and genuine appreciation from others, but it can be done. One day can start the seal of long-aged wounds. The actual hurt will always be there, but you can keep going. You aren't broken. A fresh set of colors and you can't even tell that something was ever wrong.You don't have to worry about others looking at you specially for damage others have caused you. Let them look at you how you want to be seen, wonderful, important, loving, because you are those things.

I would love feedback on my blog, my postings, and bullying in general. If you have a story you can send it to me, or if you just want my advice I am here as well. I'm not credentialed or specially trained but sometimes it's just the people who really care that can help the most.
I love each and every one of you reading this and all the ones who aren't too. I love you more than words can mean. Thank you for taking your time to read this blog, have a wonderful day, and if it's not so wonderful just (trust me here) shake it out. Arms, legs, body, the whole deal. Just get a glass of water and keep going.
Love, Shannon